Being a mother in the modern world and guiding a little soul through life is full-on! It can be way more overwhelming and challenging than what we are led to believe.
I know how easy it is to ignore your needs. Or how the outside world seems to have you disrespecting and dishonouring yourself as a mother. How isolating it can be in a time where we lack community.
But, the truth is we are mothering in outdated stories that tell us how worthy we are as a Mother! Stories rooted in perfectionism and judgment.
The modern-day mother is how much spiritual work we have done, how conscious we parent, how clean and healthy we eat, how much yoga we do, or how often we pray.
We often bypass the actual inner work which is messy and raw. But it's here where we understand how we've been acting from shadows, toxic shame, projecting onto others, or letting our triggers and inner child run the show.
Mothering can allow for a deeper awakening into growth and self-healing.
I'm here to show you how to re-value yourself as a Mother. To untangle your stories, to give a chance for you to be listened to by another woman in a safe container - a woman who can mirror you with compassion on what's going on.
A mother is selfless, AND still, we do not have to sacrifice and settle for “the sake of our children”.
We must honour our development, drives, and gifts too.
I'm a Mother, a Postpartum care advocate, and I walk with women in birth-work. I created Mothers Mentorship to allow a safe container of support for women who are moving through modern-day mothering.
Life for me before becoming a mother was quiet meditations, herbal tonics with long pauses, clean zen spaces, endless calm conversations with my partner, and hours of self-reflection. Then suddenly, that life was a distant memory.
After becoming a mother, I suddenly longed to understand all mother's magical routines, the hidden knowledge of not sleeping, and the secret ways to remain fulfilled and healthy when I had no time to think for myself.
I was looking, hoping, and in fantasy of a MOTHER who had already walked in the fire of motherhood, having gone through it all to show up at my door, make me a drink, let me cry and tell me I got this!
She never came, and I quickly understood, it's one thing to be committed to healing, yet it's another thing when you have a baby/child creating perfect triggers daily that open you up to re-examine and change your entire being.
I frequently lost who I was - I'd get hooked on an INNER “perfect Mother”, an ego identity of the word MOTHER, I found myself striving to be a woman that I could never reach.
"I would notice the ideal Mother I would create was based upon a perfect house, animals and beautiful objects rather than how I was showing up as a woman for my son daily."
Are you in your mothering journey and struggling to get your needs met?
Have you been feeling completely exhausted, lacking nourishment and vitality?
Do you want to Mother with more joy, freedom and pleasure?
Have you been feeling complete burnout and a solid rejection of mothering entirely?
Are you looking for deserved recognition for your change?
I'm here to help
Ways I can offer 1:1 support...
Reclaim as a Mother your Intuitive Knowing with Somatic Integrity:
Reconnect to the value of innate wisdom and information from your body.
Explore Alternative Parenting Approaches:
An opening into making your life easier as a Mother. Everything from honouring yourself and your family, to crying, attachment parenting, the mother-baby day, breastfeeding, travelling with a child/baby, sleep, and baby-wearing advice.
The Mother you ARE (not the Mother you think you should be):
A look into removing the external societal pressures and expectations of what you believe a MOTHER is and should be. Allowing evolution and growth.
Rebuild your body with TRUE Nutrition & Nourishment:
A chance to explore new ways to Nourish and Restore yourself within diet and lifestyle as a Mother.
For example: Cleaning up your lifestyle from environmental toxins, recovering from Veganism, accessing more sexual vitality, or repairing your pelvic health.
Discover your path of Wild Mothering:
A look at ways of re-tuning and reconnecting you to Wild Mother, I share ways of honouring yourself in this way, giving you the chance to explore anything from elemental medicine and ceremony, to ways of having a Wild Birth.
Soul-Work weaved with Mothering:
Re-imagining your journey of Motherhood to be a deeper chance to heal even within the chaos. In deep conversation, I create a place to be heard with compassion rather than misunderstanding.
A look into Shadow & Trauma as a Mother:
A look into ways of re-writing the stories we can tell ourselves as mothers. What beliefs we may have and a look at their roots.
Unpacking your Birth-story:
An opportunity to be seen, heard and validated. A chance for you to finally unravel the trauma you may have faced or the questions left.
Assist you in Creating your dream Lifestyle:
A look beyond the surface of yourself and your experience, a closer look at your deepest desires and ways to live your wildest dreams. Leaving the limits of mothering and its excuses behind, seeing your lifestyle in relation to expression.
MOTHER, you are worthy of thriving, celebrating and experiencing the beauty, love, and sacredness inside of Motherhood as you heal.
into healing ....
My story into healing began chasing my dreams to be an artist in the city.
It was a hard chase. I was struggling with alcohol and antidepressant drugs, an eating disorder, addiction, and attachment issues in my relationship.
Then one day I hit rock bottom, and descended into a dark night of the soul.
I remember that day clearly. I was staring blankly out of my window at the city’s density, concrete on top of concrete. I had too many coffees running through me.
I’d been isolated all week, counting the number of days until I saw my boyfriend, Rich. I was relying on him to make me feel something.
Tablets in hand, I popped them to the back of my throat. As a child I'd picked up on the ability of the adults around me to numb the world out. And I’d wanted to do the same.
So that day, like always, I decided to take a few.
I thought back to that morning. I saw myself standing there at my Art crit, and I recalled my drunken words...
"This artwork is about pornography and feminism."
All of which was a lie. I wasn't sure why I’d rejected the true feminine, shy, and sensitive parts of myself to appear like more of a “rambo with alcohol”.
I think a part of me thought it was "cool" to be damaged, degenerating, unwell and in pain.
That day though, the pain was unforgiving. As the warm buzz of vodka began to fade, something cold, honest and dark was setting in. I remember hearing my boyfriend’s voice on the phone. His voice didn't warm me that time. Nothing did.
“I don't want to do this anymore”, I thought. I wanted to end it all.
Shutting the curtains and allowing the darkness in at 4pm I headed for bed.
As I reached for the duvet I saw a slither of sunlight reflecting myself in my mirror.
It uncovered the result of my binges that week and gave new meaning to the makeup mask I often wore. I suddenly saw a woman with self-image issues standing in front of me.
I wept... I didn't recognise her staring back at me. Who had I become?
I prayed to the Divine, to God that night. Over and over. The pain was unbearable…
I’d had a life of eating disorders, addictions and alcoholism and was hyper-sexualised by the media. Binged on junk food, used toxic products.
It all stopped the next day like clockwork. And that's when my healing journey began.
Leaving it all behind. My rock bottom began to birth a new more conscious self.
In the next few years, I became entrenched in the health world attempting to heal my health issues. Become a fruitarian, ate raw, tried high and low carb, high fat and no fat.
I followed the world of biohacking with saunas and sun-gazing. Consumed tinctures and tonics. Juicing and cleansing. Soon after four years of identifying as Vegan, I realised I was depleted with no libido and infertile, with a foggy mind. Far from Nourished and Thriving.
I begin the search for TRUTH again. Discover Ancestral foods. I learned to use animal foods as medicine. This time, following my physiology as a woman and eating nutrient-dense foods to recover.
As a result, I watched my moon cycles return, my sex life improved, and I started laughing again!
I spent the next eight years roaming, wandering, experiencing more joy, travelling, and unravelling my forgotten cellular wisdom. I seeked out the Healing Arts, Ceremonies and Teachers. And as a result, I began to understand how damaged I was, but, most importantly, why.
Despite my journey with health, I learned that without soul-work TRUE wholeness cannot be achieved.
I spend time in Traditional ceremonies. Sat with families and children. Laughed, grieved, vomited, cried and surrendered. It was often raw and nothing like my ego wanted or what I thought a ceremony should be.
It took a few more years to truly integrate. But, eventually, I was led to see clearly my intergenerational trauma. I chose to finally be honest about what was being stored inside my body and no longer denied my early childhood sufferings. I accepted it all.
The truth I found began to set me free. I made peace with my inner child, I let her know she is safe, and I started to take self responsibility.
Then one day I heard a new call...
I thought I had it all figured out...
I was so wrong...